Praise For Dr. Amador's Work

“Dr. Amador’s method takes you by the hand and heart and leads you to an understanding that gives you the power to break the impasse and get what you need. I know of no one even in the same league.”

–Gerry Spence, author of New York Times Best Seller “How to Argue and Win Every Time.”


“[LEAP] gives practical advice and hope to those of us with a loved one who is battling a mental illness.  It provides an easy to understand blueprint that can change and save lives.”

–Pete Earley, New York Times Best Selling author of “Crazy: A Fathers Search Through Americas Mental Health Madness.”


“Xavier Amador knows what he’s talking about. ‘I’m right, you’re wrong’ happens every day, [with LEAP] you can win those arguments and find the best way to move forward without burning bridges.”

–Jeffrey J. Fox, author of “How to Become a Rainmaker and How to Become CEO.”


“The techniques Dr. Amador offers are exactly those used in international diplomacy and  conflict resolution situations. [LEAP] is a practical guide to working around and through problems that is useful on many different levels.”

–Robert P. Finn,  Princeton University, and past U.S. Ambassador


“[LEAP] gives specific pointers about how to communicate, listen, and resolve impasses. It’s hard to imagine anyone who couldn’t benefit from this practical and empowering guide to making your relationships better.”
–Robert L. Leahy, Ph.D.,  President, International Association for Cognitive Psychotherapy
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Read and Listen to build strong relationships


Dr. Amador is the author of eight books, including the international best-seller, “I’m Not Sick, I Don’t Need Help” (available in 15 languages), “I’m Right, You’re Wrong, Now What,” “When Someone You Love is Depressed,” “Break the Bipolar Cycle” and “Being Single in a Couple’s World.”


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They happen everyday— those circular “I’m right, you’re wrong!” arguments. At home, at work, in courtrooms or on the street, people lock horns about all kinds of things. These situations frustrate both parties, stall progress, and hurt relationships. But they don’t have to. In his book on using LEAP for all kinds of relationships, Dr. Amador shows you how to turn even toxic arguments into healthy disagreements that strengthen relationships and get you what you need. I’m Right, You’re Wrong, Now What is based on Dr. Amador’s Listen–Empathize–Agree–Partner (LEAP) method, a highly successful program that has been taught to tens of thousands of people in seminars around the U.S. and overseas. It will help you make that all-important distinction between what you want and what you need.




I Am Not Sick, I Don't Need Help CoverI Am Not Sick, I Don’t Need Help!

“This book fills a tremendous void…” wrote E. Fuller Torrey, M.D., about the first edition of I AM NOT SICK, I Don’t Need Help! Ten years later, it still does. In this new edition of Dr. Amador’s best-selling book, 6 new chapters have been added, new research on anosognosia (lack of insight) is presented, and new advice is offered from lessons learned from thousands of LEAP seminar participants. You will learn why so many people with serious mental illness are in “denial” and refuse treatment. Whether you are a health care professional, family member, friend or law enforcement professional, you will learn how to build trust and succeed at helping someone with mental illness to accept treatment and services. I AM NOT SICK, I Don’t Need Help! is a must-read guide.




New Audio Book!

We are proud and excited to announce the publication of the first ever audio edition of: “I am not sick I don’t need help!” How to help someone with mental illness accept treatment, by Dr. Xavier Amador (Vida Press, 2016). Narrated by Dr. Amador, this edition includes additional new material not included in the 10th anniversary edition of the book! Like the best selling print versions of the book, the audiobook is for both Doctors/Therapists and Family Members.




Break The Bipolar Cycle

If you’re dealing with bipolar disorder, you already know that it’s more than a cycle of “ups” and “downs.” You may also have difficulty with depression, irritability, weight gain, memory and fatigue. Drawing on the latest research, this step-by-step guide offers a complete selection of livable, workable solutions. You’ll be able to find successful ways to regulate your moods, relieve stress, improve thought processes, and break the bipolar cycle for a happier, healthier life. This is truly a “Day to Day Guide.




When Someone You Love is Depressed

In this authoritative and compassionate book, you’ll learn the mechanisms of depression that can destroy relationships. The authors teach concrete methods that you and your loved one can use to protect yourselves and your relationship from depression’s impact. Drawing on their own innovative research, they give guidance about how to recognize needs, provide support, and how to encourage the depressed person to seek treatment. Whether you are the partner, parent, friend, or child of a depressed person, you’ll find this book an invaluable companion in a journey back to health.




Being Single in a Couples World

Whether you are looking for a mate or have decided that marriage isn’t what you want, learn to deal with the problems that come from being single in a couples’ world. Drawing on years of clinical experience and research with both single and married clients, the authors have identified the five common stumbling blocks that can get in the way of enjoying singlehood—and developed a four-step plan to help you achieve balance and happiness–whether or not you stay single. The first and most challenging step is to stop buying into old-fashioned ideas about singlehood and marriage.




Insight and Psychosis

The insight a patient shares into their own psychosis is fundamental to their condition—it goes to the heart of what we understand “madness” to be. Can a person be expected to accept treatment for a condition that they deny they have? Can a person be held responsible for their actions if those actions are inspired by their unique perceptions and beliefs that no one else shares? The new edition of this unique book shows how we can better understand the patient’s view of their illness and provides valuable advice for those involved in the treatment of mental illness.



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invite Dr. Amador to Speak

Amador-Cambridge-Lecture_250w_webDr. Amador is an internationally sought-after speaker on a broad spectrum of topics, from health care to relationship-buidling.  He speaks at a wide range of events, giving keynote speeches at conferences, corporate meetings, public talks at auditoriums, day-long and even week-long workshops at various retreats.  His audiences range from thousands of people at a keynote talk, to intimate workshops ranging from 100 to 10 particpants.

Recent events have included a keynote speech to the NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Convention in Texas, a weekend retreat at the Omega Institute in New York on relationship-building, a keynote presentation to upper-management of a regional healthcare corporation based in California, a keynote speech for a pharmaceutical Global Conference in Dubai, and presentations on relationship building in the treatment of serious mental illnesses in Cambridge, MA, Providence, RI; Birmingham, Alabama, and Louisville, KY.

Other recent talks have been in locations as varied as Basel, Switzerland; Athens, Greece; Saratoga Springs, NY; San Diego, CA; Copenhagen, Denmark; national tour of the Netherlands; national tour of Belgium; Long Island, NY; three national tours of New Zealand; two national tours of Australia; Istanbul and Ankara, Turkey; Budapest, Hungary; Paris and Marseille France; Dublin, Ireland; Oxford, England; Halifax, Montreal, Winnipeg, Toronto, Powell River and Vancouver Canada.
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Learn to improve your relationships

LEAP-website_325w_webDr. Amador is the founder of the LEAP Institute, which is based on his research, personal-life and professional expereince as a therapist. LEAP teaches the importance of strong relationships in everything from treating illness, to healthy couples, to effective business practices.

LEAP (“Listen-Empathize-Agree-Partner”) shows you how to quickly gain the trust of someone you are at odds with. When you Listen–Empathize–Agree–Partner, you stop trying to convince the other person he is wrong, or simply misguided and instead listen in a new way that conveys respect for the person’s point of view and complete lack of judgment. Sounds easy, but most people have a very hard time doing this simple thing. It is easy, once you learn LEAP. And the result is an immediate lowering of tension, anger and defensiveness. As you convey genuine understanding, empathy and respect for someone’s point of view, even when you disagree with it, you are free to find common ground on which you can partner. And suddenly, your opinions and advice start to matter a great deal.

LEAP focuses on transforming the relationship first. You do not win on the strength of your argument; you win on the strength of your relationship. With LEAP, your opinions are no longer like a lot of hot air and are more like the wind in a sailboat’s sails that moves the person where you want him—to safe harbors.

LEAP was originally developed to give health care professionals and family members the tools they needed to persuade someone in “denial” about mental illness to accept treatment and services. Since then it has grown into method that has helped tens of thousands of people around the world learn to communicate and partner more effectively. The LEAP Institute was founded by Dr. Amador to continue and grow that goal.

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